Day of Awareness


Do you know anyone who is addicted to negative thoughts? Perhaps it is someone closer than you think.

I am not an expert on addictions, but I’ve been told that an addiction is behaviour that is usually harmful and that controls you, rather than the other way around. Can negative thinking be an addiction? You bet it can. Can it harm you? It sure can. How can you tell if your negative thoughts are out of control? Well, the first step is awareness.
Let’s make today your Day of Awareness. As an experiment, here is something you can try, something I often ask my seminar participants to do. Try going through one whole day, 24 hours, without thinking a single negative thought. No sarcasm, no put-downs, no belittling – of others or of yourself. Yes, that includes time spent driving in traffic and during the hustle and bustle of the holiday season.
Now, most people notice quite a few negative thoughts during that day of awareness. But that is not all they do. They get upset at themselves for thinking those negative thoughts, and they end up caught in a mental double negative.
So give yourself a break. Just pay attention without blaming. Notice your thought patterns for the next 24 hours. Once you become aware of how much control negative thinking has over your life, you may choose to change it. It may be a snap to change, it may not be so easy, but you can do it! First, though, raise your awareness of what is happening today – your Day of Awareness.
Here’s to a happier, more positive day and tomorrow…..
Regards
Linda

From an Owl in the Dark, to a Peacock in the Park


There is so much to be said for comfort, or is there? Over the past few weeks, I have emerged from my snail-like comfortable environment, cocooned in my known and comfy surroundings and belongings to being invited into a new colourful, mesmerising world of fashion and feel-good factor.

There is an old saying, “Youth is wasted on the young,” we do not always value it when we have it and it is also true that as one gets older it is easier to slip into and stay in a rut. August was the month I decided my motto would be Ask for Help, and this is exactly what I have done on many areas of my life and business, coming to the close of the month I am amazed at the progress and change that has happened in less than 30 days.

On the 4th August, I contacted Keren Beaumont to help me prepare for the High Profile Launch on the11th September, her patience and guidance through some online meetings, has certainly helped me out of my hiding owl state to joining the peacocks in the park. My last nearly 13 years has been casual comfort, 6 in Spain, light dresses and sandals and 6.5 years under an abaya in the Middle East, prior to that I literally burnt my professional garb, as I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, so I opted out in a massive burnout. Living in denial is very comfortable and becomes very insular, keeping others out, keeps you locked in.

I knew I was not comfortable going to meetings and feeling like the odd one out, but if you are bigger than a size 10 most fashions seem uninviting and even daunting. It is not that I stopped caring for myself, it was just that I had one style and I stuck to it, thinking it covered a lot of lumps, bumps and areas I thought were awful.

Even though Keren is petite and young, she was always warm and open, full of great ideas, helpful solutions and never saw any of the issues I saw as problems as obstacles. In fact, she saw some as bonuses! (not too much detail for our male readers). I tried clothes and colours I had not dreamt of, never in my life have I owned any trousers other than jeans, that were not black! But I do now…..

From cuts, to fabrics, colours to combinations it was a magic carpet ride to a new outlook and a new outline. The last meeting we had was talking about accessories and make-up, I have never been a person into bags and baubles, but I can see that the finishing touches make all the difference.

 After my expeditions into the shopping mania of Leeds City Centre and a couple of outer area malls, taaaa daaa the look was done and to my great pleasure, Keren was happy with it too. I felt like I have shed the rut and entered into a kaliderscope, the peacock effect and transformation was in place. A new me for the new High Profile Club Leeds. We will see how the members and guests, see it on the day.

 My experience was wonderful, I cannot thank Keren enough for her support and ideas, they were solid and easy to follow. as well as being very sound advice. I never questioned or doubted what she told me and I am so pleased that she could share her expertise and know-how with me.

 Our mind causes us to seek comfort and ease, but when we jumble that up and stretch ourselves it is amazing what we can achieve, it is never too late or too soon to start, a new start, a fresh look and set off to new horizons is never dull. Go for it and see, just like me. 

Here’s to your success.

Linda Sage MA, BA Ed(Hons), DTM

http://www.liinndasage.com

My Journey from Frumpy and Grumpy to Party Princess


bagShopping, shopping, shopping; since when did it get to be a national event? I have not been into the centre of Leeds on a Saturday since I moved here just over a year ago; now I know why! Everyone has told me that Leeds in a great shopping centre and although I have visited a few times – well as far as the station and M&S, last Saturday was my first emersion into the city centre shopping experience.

Let me just recap, in case you have missed the plot thus far. I have been out of the UK since 2005, when I burnt my corporate clothes and image before departing, since then I have lived in smart casual and sandals, first for 6 years in Spain and then covered by an abaya in Saudi for a further six and a half years. My personal style to say the least had become lazy and comfortable. Since joining the High Profile Club and subsequently becoming Director of the new Leeds Club, I felt it was time to revamp and create a new me to accompany the people and places I was now finding myself in.

One of the High Profile Club members is Keren Beaumont a prestigious stylist, so I asked her for help and miraculously she agreed. We had our first visual meeting after several exchanges of emails and photos, I was amazed at her accuracy and understanding of me and my needs, before we had even spoken. That hour was productive and thought-provoking, Keren is patient and detailed in her explanations, with easy to follow guides and comments.

 By the end of this call I knew my colour scheme, textures and shapes that I would be looking for, I jumped right in with a sneaky shopping trip to a close by mall, and tried on many things that I would never have thought of. To my delight, there was a new me emerging. I did my homework and looked at more fashion images than I had done in my life and once again I was surprised with my outcomes. I decided on the look I liked and suited me.

 My second call with Keren was as or maybe even more productive than the first, I came away with an idea of a shopping list and a format of what I was actually looking for. Armed with this I went into town Saturday morning, I stuck to the big names, Debenhams, Monsoon, House of Frazer, John Lewis and Harvey Nicks, (not in that order) some were enlightening and some not so, a hot day to be trying loads of clothes on, but I persevered and emerged from the last one carrying several bags and with a bounce in my step.

 I had managed to get 2 x jackets, 1 x trousers, 2 x skirts, 1 x blouse, 2 x dresses, all in those few hours, in a variety of colours new to my wardrobe. I had a friend come to the house and take pictures of the fashion parade to send to Keren and woohoo, I got a gold star. The right shapes and colours, one item immediately took my fancy and to my pleasure it took Keren’s too, so progress has been made for the launch on the 11th September for the High Profile Club breakfast.

Our next discussion was on accessories, and that is where I am today….. my next shopping venture really is into a new land of optional extras, as I sometimes change my ring, hardly ever swop necklaces, bracelet and watch are almost permanent fixtures and ear-rings never change that much. Now, I have to look at alternatives, so I will be keeping you updated on my next venture into the fashion world.

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Watch this space, the launch will be worth waiting for, Keren is like my Fairy Godmother and I will be going to the ball feeling like a princess.

 

 

Linda Sage MA. BA Ed(Hons), DTM

Successful Mindset Ltd.

http://www.lindasage.com

Change = Growth = Change


changeWhy is it so hard for some people to change? Some people deny the need to change, push back against any change, and can make the workplace a difficult place to be. They defend the anchors that keep the organisational “ship” from moving. Before “throwing” these people “overboard,” it is helpful to understand what happens when we try to behave differently.  
Did you know that whenever you act differently than you really believe yourself to be, you produce stress?  It doesn’t matter whether the new behaviour is worse or better than the old. If it’s significantly different, it will generate internal stress. So how in the world do people change? One way is to just grit your teeth and go ahead and throw yourself into the situation, force yourself to act differently, and hang on until the new behavior is repeated often enough to feel comfortable. Change like this takes longer, and the stress involved affects the mind, body and emotional states . . . and cascades to everyone around you.
There is a better way, a less stressful way, a way that takes much of the pain and anxiety out of change. You change the mental picture you have of yourself first. You literally rehearse the future in your head, and you see yourself acting in the new way. You take yourself through it safely and comfortably in your mind, over and over again. Soon it doesn’t feel like new behaviour at all. It feels like something you routinely do. It feels normal, or natural.
Then, when it comes time for you to actually change, it’s not such a big deal. You are already in the changed state. It is “like you” to be that way. Any stress you experience will feel more like the excitement of an adventure than the anxiety of change. And those around you will thank you for not stressing them out.
By the way, the process of repeatedly seeing yourself behave in a certain way is called visualisation, and it works for countless individuals. Watch the athletes during the next swim meet, track & field contest or gymnastics competition. Formula One drivers. FIFA players – a lot of them are visualising their performance, seeing every twist and turn. Chess masters are champions at visualisation, as they plot out their strategy many, many moves ahead of time.
Visualising change can work for you, too, and you don’t need to be a professional athlete. Why not give it a try? Decide what change you want, then see it in your mind first. And remember: it’s not so much change, as it is growth.
There are many new horizons out there, so why be limited?
Here’s to your success.
Linda Sage MA, BA Ed(Hons), DTM
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Findng a New Me


shoppingMany moons ago, I used to trapse around the shops and shopping centres for hours, enjoying every minute with my friends, chatting, laughing and trying on, this, that and the other. Saturday was always a full day in town, back to one of our houses to get ready and then out for the evening.

 However, like many things as we grow up, we forget simple pleasures and clothes shopping for me has long since seemed a pleasure. While living in Saudi there were some trips to the malls, mainly because there was little else to do there!

 which clothes  In all honesty, my wardrobe has always been pretty much the same, conservative and practical. Of course the worklife gave me the serious outfits as the last thing you want to feel in prison is attractive, because that makes you vulnerable. When I left with my big burnout, I literally burnt my suits and have never gone back to them. Living in Spain, light, floppy clothes are much more practical, then the Middle East – living under an abaya I had smart casual down to a T. In fact, the only times I ventured out of that was for official “dos” at the embassies, then I could scrub up.

 Since being back in the UK, always meaning to just get a bit of weight off, gave me the excuse not to buy clothes as I could wait till I had lost weight (which of course 16 months later – I am still waiting). Plus, logically there is nothing wrong with my clothes, they suit me. So, why am I feeling out of sync and out of place when I am attending events and meetings?

 With joining the High Profile Club in London, Rafael dos Santos came out with an anecdote “change from an everyday chicken, to a peacock.” This phrase got into my brain and it was certainly true for me, I felt I was a drab chicken, not drawing attention to myself, rummaging around for scraps with my business, rather than strutting my stuff as a peacock. Professionally, I knew I know my subject without any doubts, have decades of experience and thousands of successful clients, but I had never moved much further up the ladder to the limelight. Now, in my brain was the time I need to step up, but selling yourself always seems harder than selling a product.

 Leeds launch.jpegSpeaking to Rafael about Leeds and the high business ratio here, it seemed like a logical step for him to develop his business and open a High Profile Club Leeds, I was amazed when he asked me to be Director and then I knew, I had to become a peacock once and for all. Just at that time, Keren Beaumont joined the High Profile Club and we began exchanging comments on social media, when I twigged that she was the Fairy Godmother I needed for the launch in Leeds on the 11th September, for once I was determined to launch Leeds and Linda.

 Once I contacted Keren, she was very open to working with me, albeit virtually, something she does not normally do. I sent her my social media contacts, photos of some recent speaking engagements and a long blurb about me and my wardrobe. We had a meeting on Tuesday 7th August for an hour and she was amazing, explaining patiently the difference between warm and cold colours and shapes and styles, much of which was all new to me. Keren told me what to look for and what not to touch with a barge pole. I took 8 pages of A4 notes and she set me some homework to do as well. Clearly, Keren had spent time getting to see me online and working out all this for me.

 After the call I was buzzing and feeling very engaged, I went and looked at my wardrobe and knew there was a lot of weeding out to do. This morning (8th August) I was supposed to be having a small operation, supposedly in and out in a day. I was at the hospital in Leeds for 8.15am, checked in and settled in the ward with all the tests and bloods done by 9.30am, then waited………… 11am the nurse came and said that the Dr would not be working that day and I could leave. I cannot remember a day when I have had my diary completely clear, so I left and was on the way to get the bus home, normally I would have come back and straight back to work on the computer. Today was different.

 Instead of going to the bus stop, I walked to the centre of Leeds and started mooching around the shops, Monsoon, Debenham and M&S, I tried on so many items, all of which I would never have chosen before speaking to Keren. Some were an instant nooooooo, but some truly amazed me. I have never been one for frills and flounces, pinstripe rocked me with horror and I have never owned a pair of trousers that were not black (other than jeans). Here I was in coral trousers and a navy with silver pinstripe layered skirt, it felt good and to my astonishment, it was like going back with my friend and enjoying shopping. I did not buy anything as I had been directed by Keren to test and try, so today my homework is done and I will be progressing more tomorrow.

 Changing style is not just on the outside, it is on the inside and I had more fun this these few hours than I can remember for a long time, just goes to show, we can get into a rut and stay there so long, we do not even know we are there.

 So, I will be posting and blogging for the next month until the great reveal in the High Profile Club launch on the 11th September, come and see how well I do as a learner.

 If you are thinking of making some changes for yourself and need some practical guidance contact Keren, instant results will follow.

By

Linda Sage MA, BA Ed(Hons) DTM

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Taking Command of You


invest in youWhat happens when you feel an emotion but refuse to admit it? Perhaps, more than you think.
 
From the time we were children, most of us have been taught that it’s OK to express certain feelings, but not express others. Early on, we learned to hide emotions that made other people uncomfortable or that somehow put us in a less than favourable light. It was OK to feel grateful but not angry, OK to feel confident but not scared, OK to defer to our parents but not to question them, and so on.
 
Sometimes we even learned to hide these unacceptable feelings from ourselves. We feel frightened of social contact but deny it and pretend boredom. We feel hurt and rejected but deny it and call it anger. We feel resentful of abusive behaviour, but deny it and call it a successful relationship because we believe we need it to survive.
 
Unacknowledged feelings almost always cause trouble. We may be able to stuff them down inside temporarily, but they invariably find another escape route. They are like pressure building up under the surface, which then explodes in fire, ash and the molten lava of a volcano as it destroys whatever is in its path. Unacknowledged feelings will often manifest themselves in physical ways – in backaches, headaches, ulcers, or other more serious illnesses – in reaction to the stress of denying reality.
 
What were you taught about feelings as a child? Now that you’re older, perhaps you’d like to learn what others have to say. Try reading John Bradshaw on shame, or Martin Seligman on depression and optimism, or Harriet Lerner on anger, for starters. An abundance of literature is available on the effects of suppressed anger, for example. Then, take the time to make up your own mind. Journaling your feelings will help you come to terms with them and find solutions that reduce the anxiety, stress and pressure.
 
You are in charge of your own feelings. You always have been. Take the time, get to know you, and take command of your life.
Linda Sage MA, BA Ed(Hons), DTM

Caring for the Caregiver – A Reflection


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Compassion Fatigue is a condition that many carers might deal with – the duration and weight of their job can massively affect day-to-day life.

Caring for the Caregiver, a book written by professional Linda Sage, was written to help victims of this stressful condition. It’s one common to those in and out of industry that care for others, so its content can be applicable to those in both formal and informal caring professions.

Several topics bleed into the lives of other people, however, so whilst to information is specialised in particular for carers, some of it can prove useful for those outside of the industry.

The book gives readers the key steps to getting their hopes and dreams off the ground, as well as offering thoughtful insight and advice to removing any insecurities that might be holding them back. It’s concise and to the point, and thus is an easy read as well as a thoughtful one.

For example, a person of low self-esteem may find difficulty in achieving their goals, because of the lack of confidence they have, but the book offers help and steps to raise that self-esteem. If readers want to take action to change their life for the better, they can complete the tasks set in the book to set themselves a healthier lifestyle.

Readers can even learn a little bit of biology in the book, most specifically about how the eye works and how we see the situations we are stuck in.

Self-evaluation is a core aspect of this book, so it’s important for readers to reflect on their lives and use that reflection to better their futures. Results differ for each person, but the book greatly emphasises on the locked potential of human beings; particularly how the most unexpected of people rose up in the ranks to become something impressive.

Despite being an easy read, it’s very in-depth, and discusses several topics of the condition as well as ways to combat it.  It’s ultimately dependent on the reader’s actions, but the book points out areas of their lives they may want to work on. Planning is a key aspect and once that is nailed, the possibilities are endless for any human being.

Stepping outside a comfort zone is difficult, but the book prepares readers for making that first step. How to go about it, and explaining the self-fulfilling prophecy behind it. Belief can often hold back great potential, but once that belief is made positive, it’s            a force to be reckoned with.

This book is recommended for those that are uncertain of how to help themselves, or at least those that need a guide or just do not know where to start. Building a future is a terrifying prospect when you have no idea where to go – but once you do, you can realistically achieve almost anything.

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